Getting Rid Of Your Anger After Her Infidelity

By Jeraldine Hemongala

If you find out that your wife has been unfaithful to you, a number of things might go through your mind, some of them probably related to revenge. Then again you might feel depressed, or angry, or all of these emotions at once, which is entirely possible.

There are constructive ways to deal with the anger you feel after being cheated on. Keep in mind that anger is often really "hurt" in disguise. The two emotions are very similar and often anger is a way to mask the hurt you harbor inside. So address the pain and you will also be addressing the anger.

When you have anger in your heart, you will find that it affects your relationships, from your friends, to your family, all the way to your co-workers. Eventually, your life will begin to fall apart, and you will start down a path that you never wanted to see in the first place.

1. Whether it's your best friend, a counselor, someone from a support group, your next door neighbor, or heck even your plumber, for goodness sake talk to someone and let that anger out. Men are not known to talk about their feelings, but in this case, releasing all those pent up anger and questions looming in your head through talking will not make you less of a man.

1. You need to find someone to talk to, plain and simple. It could be a friend, it could be a counselor, or it could be someone from a support group. Maybe you could even speak to your local bartender. If you are a man, you might not feel comfortable talking about your feelings, but at some point you need to release the anger and talk through your problems. You will feel much better, and you can trust us when we say it will not make you less of a man.

By talking to someone, you will be able to clear your head and put your issues into a perspective that you can understand. The people you talk to can give you advice, but that doesn't mean you need to follow all of it. If you listen, you will see the advice you need to take, and apply it to your life.

Exercise can also help you feel and look good about yourself. It will help boost your confidence and self-worth that was crushed after knowing about your wife's infidelity. Exercise everyday and often.

One of the biggest issues of discovering infidelity is a loss of self esteem. Why did they do it? Were you not good enough? By exercising you will get yourself in shape, raise your self esteem, and ultimately stop questioning yourself.

Take the lesson and forget what happened. It is easier said than done, but in time things will get easier. Take measures to forget it one day at a time. Distract yourself by being busy and just move on with your life.

4. So she cheated, get over it. It is not the end of the world though in the beginning it may seem that way. The more you realize that there is life after being betrayed with or without her, the more you will look forward to a happier future.

Moving forward means knowing there is a possibility of rebuilding a much better marriage than you had before your wife's affair. Or if not, having another relationship again that is better and happier than the one you previously had.

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