Positive Thoughts And How To Get Past Negativity

By Marina Babenko

Are negative thoughts and worrying keeping you from being happy? Do you wish that you could be optimistic about your future but fear and worry about your current situation are destroying any attempt to change your life? Worry and fear can be very powerful emotions and they can overwhelm us and make it seem like we will be stuck with the life we're living forever. Depression, sadness and a desire to just give up are an everyday part of our lives. We want to be happy and we want to solve all the problems that we have but what can be done? How can you make the changes necessary when you are filled with these terrible emotions? Trying to just think positive doesn't work and these negative emotions just keep on coming back again and again.

Mornings are often the worst time for many of us. We wake up and we're confronted with another day of the same old thing. It could be a job that we loathe, a relationship that is sucking the life out of us or overwhelming debt that brings with it constant worry. You drag yourself out of bed and you're hit with the reality of the situation and your life.

Do yourself a favor and put those negative thoughts on the back burner. Tell yourself that you're not going to focus on the negative things in your life in the morning. Give yourself a break and tell yourself that you will think about the problems in your life later. Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself some time to wake up. The problems will still be there later on during the day and worrying about a solution isn't going to help you become motivated first thing in the morning. Tell yourself that you're not going to even think about the problem until you have had a cup of coffee.

Knowing that you're thinking in a negative fashion or that you're worrying excessively is another thing that you can do to circumvent the real problem at hand. Knowing that you're working against yourself and focusing on the problem instead of allowing a solution to come into your mind might be a good way to look at this. Fear and worry cloud your judgement. They block your intuition while positive thoughts filled with optimism about your ability to find a solution to the problem at hand helps your mind to work to find that solution.

Any time you can recognize that you're wasting time worrying about the problems in your life, stop. Just stop and tell yourself that worry never solved anything. While some worry can motivate us to do something about a dangerous situation, too much worry can cause us to freeze up. This is our fight or flight instinct. Be sure that you're not allowing your worry or focus on a bad situation to cause you to freeze in your tracks like a deer in a car's headlights and if this is the case tell yourself that you're going to use this instinct to propel you towards finding a solution instead. Visualize what you want to happen or your life without the problem in it. Look to the future and feel what it will be like to be free of the problem and exactly how you want your life to be.

Persistence is the key to eliminating negative thoughts and worry from your life. Not allowing negative thoughts to take up too much of your time and energy while focusing on finding a solution is possible and practical. Those negative thoughts very well might come back but if you are ruthless about recognizing them for what they are. Focus on your life without the problem and you will find that you're happier, healthier and more motivated to change your life.

If you're not in the habit of doing so, try putting some time aside when you can be alone with your thoughts and dream about what you really want. Look at photos that motivate you and make you happy while giving yourself permission to dream. Visualization is a practice that successful people around the world have spoken of time and time again as something that came before anything great that they ever did. The most successful businessmen in the world thought about their success before they ever did a thing. The tallest skyscraper in the world was a thought in the designers head before the ground was ever broken. What makes you think that your life and your dreams are any different. Think about what you want, get a bearing on the direction that you need to go and give yourself permission to achieve that goal. You deserve to live a happy life and not one filled with fear and debilitating worry.

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